How to choose a prostate massager

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland a few inches inside the body, towards the front. Stimulating it can feel very different from other sensations, and a prostate massager is shaped to reach it comfortably. Here is how to pick the right one.

What makes a prostate massager different

Unlike a straight plug, a prostate massager has a curved head that angles towards the prostate, and usually a second arm that rests against the perineum outside. A flared or looped base keeps it safely in place. Browse our prostate toys.

Hands-free or vibrating?

• Hands-free massagers, like many from Nexus, move with your pelvic floor muscles. They are simple, quiet and a great first choice.
• Vibrating massagers add motors to the head, the perineum arm or both. Many are rechargeable and waterproof.
• Remote and app-controlled designs let a partner take control. See remote control toys.

Size and material

For a first massager, choose a slim head with a gentle curve. Body-safe silicone is soft, non-porous and easy to clean. Firmer materials give a more direct feel once you know what you like.

Getting started

1. Relax. A warm bath beforehand helps.
2. Use plenty of anal lube, and water-based if the toy is silicone.
3. Go slowly and let the toy settle before adding movement or vibration.
4. Stop if anything hurts.

Clean your massager before and after every use. Our care guide explains how. All orders arrive in discreet, plain packaging.